We always have to blame something or someone. It makes us feel better by giving us a sense that the uneasy feeling we’re living with and our accompanying emotional distresses have been addressed.
Once we’ve blamed somebody, our frustration and burdens are temporarily exorcised.
But blame resolution, like the pursuit of instant gratification (insert joke) is rarely lasting and only helpful if placed within context.
It takes a certain amount of experience to balance the need to satiate blame with the reality of where things truly stand. Human nature requires we assign responsibility and “do something” to mitigate the perceived wrong. Until we blame somebody, we feel that our worries are unresolved. If we really care about something, it’s essential to our heads that we get why it’s wrong and that there’s movement toward addressing it.
If not, it gets basketed into the unresolved emotional distress bin — and that gnaws at you.
It reminds me of…. pardon the elder reference here… the “Mash” line where Frank intones, “we need to do something, ANYTHING.” Hawkeye replies, “I agree with Frank, let’s do anything.”
That’s the “make the pain go away” line, but it usually doesn’t solve the underlying problem.
My unfortunate friend is married to someone who constantly harps on money while this person is building a business and highlights everything that’s wrong in the day-to-day world. That doesn’t change the fact that all those little things that are wrong aren’t going to get better until they get better. Which simply means that everything is going to look like it’s wrong until things are headed in the right direction. All of the little things that appear to be wrong would be just fine if things were good in the short-term.
The thing is… it was clear before they got married that they’d have to go through this, but the frustration of the problem begets the need to blame something. And, of course, everything looks bad. If business were great, human nature would find a way to generate happy signals for most of the frustration signs.
Folks, we’re in the perfect storm of awful — we all saw this coming, but it’s worse than we ever thought it would be.
Reflecting back, we should have thought it could get this bad.
We’ve got a brand new quarterback, brand new wide receivers and a mostly new line starting against one of the hardest opening schedules in the country.
Now layer that in with the fact that we’ve had one of the worst defenses in the country with paper thin, lower-rated depth adjusting to a brand new defensive scheme.
That’s all bad enough, but we also don’t have ONE WEEK of rest for EIGHT STRAIGHT WEEKS. Not one smaller team to at least get our footing against.
In addition to all of this, we’re struggling with the worst junior/senior classes in ND history and even those low rated classes have been decimated by attrition.
I hate where we’re at. No football fan could enjoy this, but I also know the talent that’s coming underneath; it’s landscape changing talent especially on defense.
In the meantime understand that the personal need to assign blame is human, but not necessarily helpful or relative. We just don’t, and can’t, understand much of what is wrong until we come up the backside of awful. Everything (and I’m to blame as well) looks bad right now. Are the lack of hitting practices to blame? Probably, but if we had hitting practices and lost Trevor Laws or Pat Kuntz is that worth the trade-off? Or after Laws goes down for the season do we then blame the stupid decision to have harder hitting tackle to the ground practices?
Blame is one of the most useless, but essential of human reactions. Blame allows us to move on That’s why we can blame with venom one week and embrace again the next week with a fervor we thought was impossible the week before.
It’s part of being a fan.
The emotional need to blame, whether it’s in relationships, business or sports, needs to be satiated and… something needs to be sacrificed to be free of this need to make the wrong, right.
We’re all going to be mad after every loss, let’s just don’t sacrifice the wrong idea or jump the wrong conclusions to satisfy blood lust. It takes courage to back your man and stay the course.
We’ve all thrown in with Charlie who, most of all, cares about ND while being smart enough to figure it out.
Our plight today was absolutely 100% predictable two years ago.
That doesn’t mean there aren’t mistakes being made, but we wouldn’t notice most of them, at all, if we were winning and, because we’ve got some basic fundamental issues, we can’t tell if things are symptoms or causes.
The key here is to adjust our focus away from our beer-slamming emotions and onto the fact South Bend is going to be loaded with talent for the next four years. One, it’s the truth and two, nothing else we do in the meantime, this emotional thrashing, accomplishes anything more than appeasing our own angst.
Oh, I forgot, the one thing that has been horrible from the start is special teams.